Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Book Review: The Restaurant Critic's Wife by Elizabeth LaBan

Sometimes you read a book that touches you deeply and opens your eyes to a new thought.  When I requested The Restaurant Critic’s Wife by Elizabeth LaBan, I did not expect it to be one of those books.  I thought it would just be funny.  But this book is so much deeper than that.  Although my life has very few similarities to the main character’s, I found myself relating to her so much. 
Lila Soto is an educated woman who is about to give birth to her second child.  She used to work for a major hotel chain, flying around to their hotels and solving their problems.  It was a job she loved.   he and her husband recently moved from New Orleans to Philadelphia for Sam’s job.  He’s the new restaurant critic for a major newspaper, and he’s determined to keep his identity a secret.  When they go out to restaurants, he wears a disguise and refuses to answer to his name.  Lila can deal with that aspect of her new life, but Sam has also decided that Lila has to be careful who she associates with so that no one can accuse him of favoritism in his reviews.  But without her job and with no friends Lila begins to lose herself and her identity.  She struggles with the decisions she has made, and can’t help but wonder if she made a mistake somewhere along the way.  Her old boss offers her a job, but Sam doesn’t want her to take it, and she wonders about leaving her children and traveling.   Her new neighborhood is full of seemingly perfect women who are amazing mothers, and she just can’t find a way to fit in with them.   The book covers over a year of time and follows Lila along a journey to finding herself.  She leaves behind a life that she loved, for one that she loves even more.
I think that this is a book that every woman can relate to whether they work or stay at home.  I saw so many of my own emotions in Lila’s life.  I think a lot of women struggle to find their identity after they have children.  Here is a woman who loves her husband and loves her children, but can no longer figure out exactly who she is.  While Sam obviously loves her, too, he cannot understand all that she is going through.  Just like life when you are around children, this book does have its funny parts.  It feels like real life while you’re reading, it’s equal parts fun and sadness.  I felt her pain, her confusion and her doubts, but I also cheered when she found a new normal for her and her family.    
This is my first book by Elizabeth LaBan, but I think she is an amazing author.  It’s not every writer that can write such relatable, believable characters.  I definitely look forward to reading more from her in the future.  I think this is a great book for all moms to read.  You may finish it and realize that you are not alone.

Happy Reading!
Lyndsie

I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for this review. All opinions are my own.  You can find The Restaurant Critic’s Wife on sale on or around January 5, 2016. 

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Family Pictures



Every year I say I'm going to schedule family pictures for our Christmas cards, and then I don't.  Our cards usually end up being something I had my sister take in our front yard at the last minute.  But the truth is, we don't have these years with Jaxon as a baby for long.  Soon he'll be big and running around and doing his own things, and I'll wish I had these times back.  So, since I know I'll never be able to get the days back once they're gone, I'm going to work a little harder now to try to remember the wonderful moments as they happen. 
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Photo Credits: Magical Moments Photography


Isn't his little tie just adorable?  My aunt made it for his birthday.  He's never worn one before, and I thought he would pull at it, but he left it alone.  It hung a little crooked sometimes, but that just upped the cuteness factor of it!


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Photo Credits: Magical Moments Photography




This was Jaxon's first official photo shoot, and he wasn't really up for smiling much, but our photographer, Sable, was really good with him and somehow she caught him at least semi-smiling most of the time. 




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Photo Credits: Magical Moments Photography


The wind was blowing a good bit, and it's so funny to see Jaxon's little tuft of hair waving in the breeze!  There were some dogs, cats, chickens and a pony wandering around and he loved watching them.  I think I have a future animal lover on my hands!


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Photo Credits: Magical Moments Photography


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Photo Credits: Magical Moments Photography
We changed him into his overalls for the solo pictures, because there's just something about a barefoot boy in overalls!  He didn't really care much for the hay bale though, and kept saying, "OW!" whenever the hay poked him.



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Photo Credits: Magical Moments Photograpy


This is my favorite picture of all.  It was an impromptu shot while Billy was trying to get Jaxon to smile.  It shows their personalities so perfectly.  Billy is all about playing with Jax and having fun, and that boy loves his daddy!
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Photography Credits: Magical Moments Photography


And last, but not least, one of me and my love!  I love the colors on this one and the little farm cabin in the background.  We also got all of our prints in black and white, but the color shots turned out to be my favorite.  Yay for a professional-looking Christmas card this year and lots of happy memories!


Happy Day,
Lyndsie

Monday, September 22, 2014

Book Review: Brave Mom by Sherry Surratt

Did you know that many moms struggle with crazy and sometimes irrational fears?  I didn't.  I honestly thought I was the only one.  But in Brave Mom, Sherry Surratt made me realize that I'm not alone.  I'm not crazy.  And having fear doesn't make me a bad Christian.  She points out so many ways that moms worry, and are afraid--afraid of the future, afraid for our children, afraid of danger, money problems, and so on.  Nearly every thing she mentioned is something that I have been afraid of at some point since becoming a mom.  What if my child gets sick?  What if I can't take care of him?  What if something happens to me?  So many, "what if's" cloud my life every day.  And I'm so happy to know that I'm not the only one!  Beyond that, I'm glad to know that there are answers.   Most people, especially those who have never felt "mom fear," will tell you to just trust God to take care it.  That is true, but Sherry goes further than that.  She gives reasons why we have fear, and ways that we can overcome it.  She lets us know that God understands our fear.  I had never even realized how many times God talks about fear in the Bible.  It's enough times to know that He understand and has answers for me. 
Yes, many times my fear is irrational, and I fear things that will probably never happen.  Sherry gives concrete solutions for laying aside our worries and fears.  She goes beyond telling us just to trust God, but gives us examples of just how we can do that.  She explains the difference between rational and irrational fears, but ultimately lets us know that it's all in God's hands.  Laying it at His feet, and truly leaving it there will give us peace. 
As I read this book, I found myself constantly surprised that others faced the same fears that I do.  Just in the two days that it took me to read it, I caught myself worrying multiple times about things I have no control over.  And I used some of the suggestions that Sherry gives to keep myself from sinking into fear.  I highlighted and marked multiple passages in the book to go back and read when I find myself facing fear.  Each chapter gives practical ways to face your fears and overcome them--ideas for finding other people to confide in, solutions for laying down the burdens that threaten to overcome us, real-life stories from moms who've been there and multiple Bible verses about how God wants to be there for us.  
My favorite quote came near the end of the book.  Sherry gave a list of several Bible verses that show us that God is there for us, that He cares and He understands the things we go through as moms.  These are the truths we need to remember to help us face fear.  She says, Truth busts fear and leaves it powerless.  Truth brings fear into the light, where it looks small and very manageable.  How true!
Every mom needs to read this book.  If nothing else, you will discover that you are not alone!  Many moms face the same issues and worry about the same things you do.  But you can overcome and be the Brave Mom that God intended you to be!  I'm so happy that I found this book.  I can't wait to start putting it into practice--to become the mom that my child needs me to be. Brave Mom is a powerful message for moms everywhere!

Happy~FEARLESS~Reading!
Lyndsie


I was given an advance copy of this book in exchange for my review.  All opinions are my own. 

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

It's a Beautiful Life

Everyone always says that when you hold your child for the first time, an incredible love sweeps over you.  It seems so cliché to say it, but I've found that it's so true!  My life changed forever at 5:53 am on August 23, 2013.  I was worried through my whole pregnancy about being a mom.  I didn't know if I could handle having this little person be dependent on me for their entire existence.  I was afraid of having to plan my life around him, and stop doing the things I like to do.  I was concerned about the poop and the spit-up and the long nights without sleep.  That may sound selfish, but I LOVE to sleep!  But from the moment Jaxon was placed on my chest for the first time, I would have done anything to make that baby happy.  This love is the craziest emotion I've ever felt.  Sometimes I just stare at him and think how beautiful he is and how I can't believe he's mine!  I love to stand over his crib while he's sleeping and see his little face as he stares at his Glow Worm, his eyes getting heavier and heavier until he drops off to sleep. 
Being a parent is hard.  It does mean that I don't get to do some things that I love.  Even a simple trip to the grocery store is harder, takes longer and requires planning.  I can no longer wake up in the morning and be ready to go somewhere in 30 minutes.  Inevitably, Jaxon will want to nurse, or he'll need his diaper changed...again.  It seems that I can no longer eat lunch without him crying his little head off because he is hungry at the same time as I am.  Every parent makes these kinds of sacrifices, and some many more, but I've found that I don't mind them at all.  As a matter of fact, whatever I can do to make his life better is worth all the trouble
All the worries about being a mother are gone.  (Replaced by new worries of course, but that's a whole different post.)  The poop doesn't bother me much, and there may be some spit up on my shirt or skirt or bed linens at any given time.  Jaxon usually sleeps all night, but he's awake bright and early and cooing in his crib.  Even though I am not a morning person at all, it makes my heart so happy to go into his room and see his happy, morning smile.  Don't even get me started on the joy I feel when I see him with his daddy.  Jaxon absolutely adores his daddy!
My world is no longer the perfectly planned, neat, orderly world it was before.  I live every day in a new reality.  I love my little family, and I love doing things to make both of them smile.  My life is no longer about me, but I don't feel slighted.  It's a beautiful, happy life that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world.  My life revolves around my two favorite guys-and I like it that way!