I have to admit it. Even though I am now very happily married,
the message of Stephanie Rische’s book I
Was Blind (Dating) But Now I See, really appealed to me. There was a time when I was single, and I
desperately wanted to be married. I
experienced a lot of the things that Ms. Rische talks about, from well-meaning
friends, to family jokes that stung more than a little. What I appreciated most about this book was
that it is not a way to change yourself so a man will love you. I guess those books have their place, but
sometimes a single girl needs something more.
I also appreciated the fact that this author doesn’t tell single women
that they are somehow wrong to desire a man in their lives. So many times I’ve read and heard it said
that single people should enjoy the “season” they are in now, without wishing
for more. I even read a book by one
husband/wife team that indicated you aren’t ready for marriage until you’ve
learned to enjoy life as a single person.
These sentiments sound good on the surface, but they just aren’t
true. I believe that God puts the desire
for companionship in every person, and we aren’t wrong to wish and pray for a
mate. Ms. Rische wasn’t shy about
admitting that she desired a husband, prayed for a husband, and even doubted
God along the journey. Her story is
sometimes funny, sometimes painful and always heartfelt.
This is not a book about finding
a husband. It’s not a guide that tells
girls what they can do to snag a man.
It’s a series of lessons about coming to the realization that God knows
what He’s doing all the time, and His grace is always sufficient. It’s about coming to terms with
disappointments in life, and moving past them.
It’s raw and honest. So many
times I could feel Stephanie’s pain, and I remember times in my life when my
own heart cried, “This isn’t fair!” But
I found in my life, the same as Ms. Rische, that God is faithful in all things.
I wish that I had I Was Blind (Dating) But Now I See during
my single years. It is not only great
lessons about living as a single person in a world full of married people, but
it is full of encouragement for people in all walks of life. It includes encouraging passages from the
Bible, but also from someone who’s been there. It might seem odd to include this
book in my “2016 Must Read” series, and you might think that if you’re married,
or not looking to get married, this book isn’t for you. But I think this book is applicable for anyone
who is in a season of waiting, wishing and maybe even doubting. Maybe you won’t relate to the stories, but
the lessons remain true. If we’re
honest, I think we’d all admit that we’ve had times when we couldn’t understand
what was going on in our lives, or why it seemed that God wasn’t answering our
prayers. Here is a lesson about waiting,
while wanting, to help us see that grace is always there waiting for us with
open arms.
Happy Raeding!
Lyndsie
I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for
this review. All opinions are my own and
a favorable review was not required.
Thanks for these wonderful reflections, Lyndsie! I'm so grateful my stories collided with your world and your stories. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts! May God shower you with love and grace this year.
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